6 January 2009, 6:25 pm
My mother in-law and I have been super close ever since my husband introduced me to his parents when we were still dating back in spring 2001 and we never had any issues whatsoever. I started getting very irritated once my daughter was born. Because I don't get along very well with my blood mother .. my mother in-law came up and stayed with my husband and I. She even helped me through labor/delivery, which I was very appreciative and thankful. Things started to fall apart when I couldn't get the hang of my daughter latching on because my daughter was born 3 weeks early than her scheduled due date and she had a poor sucking so she never latched on. My husband and I borrowed a hospital grade breast pump from the hospital, which my MIL became very upset with me every time I used it. I even used a breast shield, which she told me a story about snatching those things away from her girlfriend because in her opinion mothers should be able to latch their babies no problem and it's unnatural for mothers to be using breast shields or even breast pump so she had snatched them away from her girlfriend, which she then flushed them down the toilet to make a point. One day, after I finished pumping my breast for milk .. my MIL stormed into my bedroom, which is a safe and private place for me to relax and she yanked her top off (shirt/bra) and shoved her perfect boobs/nipples in my face telling me how she was able to breast feed both of her boys no problem. Her boobs weren't inverted like mine are. Since that day, I was so pissed off and so upset the next day I confronted her without bringing my husband into the middle because really this was between my MIL and I. She totally got scared of me and started having attitude problems towards me. Anyways, since then my MIL and I haven't been as close as we were and whenever we see each other or whenever she emails me she has this attitude problem where she says things that would make me offended. She'll say things that aren't true so I always have to reply back to her emails letting her know that what she is assuming isn't true or I hate it when she compares me with her other daughter in-law. My sister in-law is a whole other story, which we have nothing in common whatsoever. Anyways, I am unsettled because my sister in-law and her daughter are flying back in from their Christmas/New Years vacation from visiting her family and my brother in-law and his mom are coming to visit with my daughter and I tomorrow, which they will be staying with us for about 3 hrs. Cringes. Now I understand when others (some) have issues with their MIL. How do you deal with this? Also, it annoys me when MIL constantly brags about what her boys did when they were infants now that my daughter is an infant. It's so annoying!! I tried talking to my husband about this, but every time that I do is when I make his feelings upset and if you're curious he's a mama's boy so not sure if that matters or not, but how do you daughter in-law cope with this? Any tips or advice? Also, my mil makes comment like, "When your niece was just 4 months old she started having her teeth come in" while my daughter who was at 6 months old got her first 2 bottom teeth in. She's 8 months old now, but still no teeth on her top or anywhere else. Then, my mil makes comments like, "My oldest son who is my husband by the way skipped his crawling stage, but began to walk one day when he was just 9 months old." My blood mother always reminds me how each "babies" are different from one to another so I shouldn't really worry about what my mil says about my daughter. One thing I totally made her look so stupid was when she was here with us when my daughter was born and she kept making comments like, "Did you know that all babies says the word Dada before they start to say Mama?" Well, a month ago - my daughter started saying the word - Mama out of the blue and started using her "M" sounds like ma ma ma ma mmmm ma ma. Even till this day, she can't say her "D's" yet - LoL I know this post might seem very long and I apologize, but lastly, my husband, daughter and I had traveled couple hours to meet them for Thanksgiving when my mil was holding my daughter when she said the word "Ma Ma" and making her "M' sounds that the look my mil gave herself made her look dumb. I told her, "Sally can say Ma ma, but she hasn't used her "D" sounds yet for Da da. Lmao One last thing I promise is that I started feeding my daughter solids when she turned 6 months old and I use store bought baby food and my mil has a problem with that saying that she made everything from scratch for her 2 boys and so did her other daughter in-law. My parents fed me store bought baby food when I was once a baby and look how I turned out to be all healthy. My husband said it was ok for me to use store bought food as long as I eat it first to make sure the food is safe for our daughter and my blood parents don't have any issues with it either.... Read More »
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